I WRITE THIS WITH UPMOST COMPASSION FOR ALL HUMAN BEINGS…. THE WEARY, THE BROKEN, THE HAPPY, THE CONTENT, THE SCARED, ALL OF US….

SADNESS DOESN’T AUTOMATICALLY EQUAL DEPRESSION SO WHY ARE WE SO SCARED TO BE SAD?

I SPOKE WITH AN OLD FRIEND TODAY WHO TOLD ME SHE CANT SEE HER KIDS RIGHT NOW AS SHE JUST NEEDS SOME TIME ALONE. YES SHE’S A GOOD MUM, YES SHE MISSES THEM, YES SHE IS NOT ALONE!

THIS WOMAN LOVES MUSIC AND SONGWRITING AND PLAYING HER GUITAR SO I SAD TO HER ‘YOU KNOW WHAT YOU NEED TO DO BABE?… GET OUT YOUR GEETAR AND WRITE A REALLY REALLY SAD FUCKING SONG!” … OH AND SNIFF YOUR ESSENTIAL OILS FOR EMOTIONAL AWARENESS AND SUPPORT?

THERES SOMETHING COMFORTING IN LISTENING TO BREAK UP SONGS THROUGH A BREAKUP OR SONGS OF LOSING PEOPLE AFTER A RECENT DEATH, SAD SONGS WHEN FEELING SAD CAN BE SO NURTURING FOR ONE REASON AND ONE REASON ONLY…..

VALIDATION…..

THE SONG COMES ON AND KIND OF SAYS, FUCK YES YOU CAN BE SAD WITH ME, I DON’T NEED YOU TO SMILE FOR ME TO BE OKAY TO SIT HERE WITH YOU… HERE YOU GO, HERE IS A SAFE PLACE FOR YOU TO FEEL COMPLETELY VALIDATED AND ACCEPTED IN YOUR INSANELY CHAOTIC EMOTIONAL YET BEAUTIFUL DISASTER, CRY AWAY MY FRIEND I AIN’T GOING NOWHERE!

PEOPLE AREN’T OFTEN CAPABLE OF DOING THIS FOR OTHERS. USUALLY PEOPLE SLIP INTO FEAR OF YOUR WELLBEING, THEY TAKE YOU PERSONALLY, YOUR DARKNESS REMINDS THEM OF THEIR OWN. ALL THESE THINGS ARE IN RESISTANCE TO DARKNESS, IN FEAR OF IT, NOT IN A SPACE OF VALIDATION AND ACCEPTANCE.

ONLY WHEN SOMEONE HAS FULL PERMISSION TO BE WHERE THEY ARE, HAVE COMPLETE AWARENESS AND OWNERSHIP OF THE FACT THEY ARE THERE, CAN THEY SHIFT OR CHOOSE TO BE SOMEWHERE ELSE.

LETS HOLD THAT SPACE FOR OUR LOVED ONES THEY WAY WE WOULD FOR OUR CHILDREN.

IF WE AREN’T DOING THIS FOR OUR CHILDREN AND TELLING THEM TO HARDEN THE FUCK UP AND STOP CRYING THEN WE NEED TO STOP THAT AND REMEMBER THAT YES WE CAN ONLY MEET PEOPLE AS DEEPLY AS WE OURSELVES HAVE BEEN MET BUT THIS DOES NOT MEAN ITS OKAY FOR AN UNCONSCIOUS PROJECTION OF OUR TRIGGERS TO GRACE ITSELF ONTO OUR CHILDREN… TRY VALIDATION AND ACCEPTANCE ON THEM TOO, WITH MORE THAN JUST OUR WORDS, WITH OUR EYES, WITH OUR TONE AND WITH OUR WHOLE BODY… LETS TELL THEM THAT THEIR FEELINGS ARE HEARD AND VALIDATED AND WATCH THE MAGIC HAPPEN.

MY POINT… ALL HUMAN EMOTIONS ARE BEAUTIFUL…

ITS NOT SADNESS THAT CREATES DARKNESS ITS BUT THE RESISTANCE TO BEING SAD IN THE FIRST PLACE.

 LOVE HAYLEY

………..IF YOU’RE IN A DARK PLACE PLEASE KNOW THAT THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE OUT THERE WHO WILL HEAR YOU AND VALIDATE YOU AND THAT YOU DESERVE THAT VERY THING… PLEASE KNOW YOU DESERVE THAT AND GO FIND IT, EVEN IF ITS A BEYOND BLUE HOTLINE CALL ITS BETTER THAN FEELING ALONE. WE COULD BE SURROUNDING BY DOZENS OF LOVED ONES, SUPPORT AND POSITIVITY AND STILL FEEL LIKE THE LONLIEST PERSON IN THE WORLD, REACH OUT PLEASE HUMANS X

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